Let the games begin.

My urban Guru, Steve Harvey, from the Steve Harvey morning radio show has convinced me not to have sex. This is something quite blog worthy, because not having sex would normally be a deal breaker for me. You see I am a 30 something city woman. A scorpio at that, which for those of you who are astrologically defunct, this means I’m extremely sexual. It may even be the most predominant personality trait I have. Now I’m not saying that I’m a complete ho bag, but I am quite comfortable in the bedroom.

Over the past few years, I’ve often enjoyed the company of young, built, dumb, hung men. They were fun, really really fun. But dare I say it I think I’m ready to settle down, or better yet to open my heart to someone?

So Mr. Harvey, I’m listening.

Steve says:
That finding a partner should be like interviewing for a job. When someone applies for a job, the 1st thing that happens is that the job description is clearly spelled out. What is expected as well as what will not be tolerated. The hours, the duties to be performed and such. All of this is laid out in the beginning. During this INTERVIEW process, it is the responsibility of the person who is looking to hire someone, to listen to what the person being interviewed is actually saying. As opposed to hearing what you wish they were saying.

Breakdown:
When a man says he is just looking to have fun… it means he is clearly not looking for a relationship or in other words...PLAYER.

Steve says:
Just like with any other job, one usually needs to make it through a probationary period where there is an opportunity to determine if the job description is being fulfilled. Only after this probationary period, and a through performance assessment can be completed does the employee begin to receive any “benefits”.

Breakdown:
Don’t start offering benefits until you are certain the job description will be met.
If the employee is getting the benefits from the beginning, then there is no need to perform the required duties.

Steve says:
If a man is not willing to wait out the probationary period to receive the benefits, this means he is not actually interested in holding down the job, that he is really only interested in the benefits.

So the game begins here.
I pledge to put this advise into action with my newest applicants.
The goal, to wait as long as I possibly can. To hold out on sex until I’m sure I’ve found someone who actually wants the job. And to keep me honest (and untouched), I will take you along on the ride.